So the first question that has been sent in is from gess who lives in New South Wales in Austria we
have.
And Jess asks she says Kim I love the section on core values and also on goal setting.
If you were to personally give the term success a definition what would it be.
Thank you Jess.
That is a fascinating question.
So this this answer I'm going to I'm going to reference back to the start of the section of goal setting.
Remember when we looked out the finding a great slide vision for ourselves.
And we'll have the tombstone didn't we.
The tombstone.
Is this how it is that we want to fundamentally be remembered by other people once we've gone.
No.
The funny thing about being remembered by other people is that we cannot determine that or we are only
going to be remembered by other people based upon how it is we choose to conduct ourselves and how it
is that we have conducted ourselves throughout our lifetimes.
So if I was to define success.
I'm guessing because the way the mainline works.
Success for me would need to be something that I was able to influence.
I've met so many people over the years who define success by the amount of money they have in the bank
by how much stuff they own the size of their house the size of their bank balance the size of the car.
Some people even the size the biceps.
No Quail's these things are nice.
I understand that none of these things are strong enough for us to build a strong and meaningful life
upon soar.
If we understand that the only thing that we're able to control in life is how it is that we choose
to respond or react to the circumstances situations that we find ourselves in.
Then we'll also understand that we have complete control over who it is that we choose to be on a daily
basis.
No one went back to the Believe section of the course we looked at the core identity and model into.
We looked at the difference between between what we do in or wholeness if we choose to conduct ourselves
and then who we fundamentally are.
Well if we are clear on who it is we fundamentally are then this gives us a choice as to how it is that
we choose to eat or a day to day basis.
Sort of that being said.
I would personally find success is most likely different from how most people are in the world defined
success.
But this definition I'm going to ride on the board for a year allows me to be in can keep control off
whether I'm successful on a day to day basis of whether I'm not most people's success in life is based
upon the economy upon whether other people choose to.
We all deal with them and interact with them queries.
Success for me is based upon the choices that I make.
So success for me is.
Being.
It's not about doing.
It's about being.
True.
To.
Who I.
Nor.
My self to be.
To stop.
And that is that I'm not going to make.
Success about anything that I do know the reason the westways say that you might be thinking became
That's that's that's a fuss a funny thing.
But success has to be seen in some way related to stuff that we do or what happens if I lose the use
of my legs or my arms.
What happens if I get in a car crash site when I drive at home.
I get my spine broken or something like that and I can no longer move.
Would that then mean that I can't be successful for the rest of my life.
Well I don't want to think like that.
Seems it's my life.
I can think how I want.
And this is a funny thing about life coaching.
We all have exactly the same choices in life but if you look at this right and we've looked at credenza
we have looked at beliefs.
Right.
This isn't even a bad thing.
If I know who I am at the core is loving and giving caring creative passion Earth's honest reliable
sincere all of these things.
Well I know that's who I am.
And I then choose to be incongruence or dishonest or or greedy or some like but that would mean that
I'm not being true to who I am which would mean that I'm being unsuccessful in life.
I have come to recognize especially over the last few years is that as I have stepped out and I've chosen
just to be myself like in this cause there's no bells and whistles and not just reading from a text
book.
I'm just being honest about my life's experiences.
So hopefully you can understand and benefit from from from me fundamentally.
Whilst I have attracted a few more haters of attracted a few more loyal followers and followers as well.
And watch the feedback that I guess is that can will love how raw and honest you are.
I've even heard feedback from someone mccourt's is saying Cain watch and your causes is like an aha
moment per minute.
That was one of the best ones are right.
I don't feel like what I'm talking about is revolutionary.
I'm just being honest.
But if you think about it if I'm being honest right now as video with that and guess what I am being
successful right now.
Because whilst you might have an opinion about it there's going to be someone else who's who might just
feel inspired.
And I was thinking to themselves well queen if you're just being honest about your life and your circumstances
and how you choose to conduct yourself on camera and you make money doing that then perhaps I can do
the same which is very very true.
So look what I'm seeing here is this is all to do with authenticity success and authenticity kind of
go completely hand in hand.
So being true to who I know myself to be means that I'm not holding anything back it means that I'm
doing the very very best and us things just so happen that I get financially rewarded for this as well.
So I'm not I'm not a slave to a wage.
I don't have to justify myself to anyone else for intents and purposes and fundamentally free in life
financially free free within myself and have any beliefs holding me back.
There are no off although I stand to be corrected on those.
But this means that I can just live the rest of my days being myself as creative as how I want to be
and been as successful as I want to be so I would suggest from New South Wales in Australia how would
I define success as being true to who I know myself to be which is fundamentally a choice a choice that
I can make every single day.
Quite a liberating thought isn't it.
I hope this makes sense.
And over the next few videos we'll look forward to answering a few more fascinating questions that I've
got here.